Caring for my mum was special, and really draining. As the Alzheimer’s began to take hold, she began to slip away, and was eventually placed on hospice care at home. Quite frankly, there were many days when I didn’t want to get out of bed. I was bathing and dressing my mum, cooking and cleaning, managing medical appointments, giving out meds, hiring private caregivers and watching over home health aides.
People always say, “You have to take care of yourself first.” Well, I wasn’t very good at that. I couldn’t focus - which impacted my business. I was not sleeping well, felt exhausted, and my health was suffering. I just didn’t know where to turn or how to come up for air.
It was in this place, that Millie Grenough, the founder of OASIS, recommended that I attend the training. I was more than skeptical…I really was not in the mood for any kind of foo-foo kumbaya stuff. But… I did decide to give myself a break and take the day to focus on me...and to recharge. Trust me when I tell you that this was huge.
When I walked through the door, I was tense, my neck ached, and my shoulders were hunched and tight. I was exhausted and grieving. During the retreat I learned the 4 simple strategies. I met some wonderful people and I reconnected with myself. I could feel the pressure lifting, and I went home in a much better place than when I started.
My “peaceful” frame of mind didn’t last long. I wasn’t in the door 5 minutes when my grandson, Tristan (who was seven) charged through the back door screaming at his mother. I took one deep, long breath and showed him one of the techniques I had learned earlier that day – the One Stone. To my surprise, he calmed down quickly, and we were able to talk about what was upsetting him. When his mother came in – she was still frustrated - Tristan showed her the new technique. I knew in that moment that this was real.
I have shared this story and the techniques with friends, family and overwhelmed caregivers and each time have experienced the same results. Trust me, I know what it’s like to be struggling in the overwhelm, to give all you have and still try to squeeze out a bit more. I know what it’s like to react in the moment and then regret it later. I know what it is like to feel frustrated and unappreciated on the job. I know what it is like to struggle with balancing giving and taking care of myself. I use these techniques…I know it works.
It is a true blessing to be able to share something so simple and so powerful that can truly make a difference!
Tristan now collects rocks everywhere he goes!